Tuesday, November 24, 2009

I Don't Mind

Tuesday is my early morning these days. While the rest of my family is sleeping I am up, fully clothed, munching my Life cereal over the morning paper. Bub found me that way this morning and asked in astonishment, "Are you the only one here? Did you get up and come down here all by yourself?"

When I confirmed that this was, indeed, the case, Bub replied, "Well, you have me now. So you don't need to be alone anymore."

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Bub's new favourite expression is "I don't mind." He uses it in situations where he might be expected to mind a great deal: taking medicine, turning off the computer, letting Pie have a turn with the Leapster. It's as though the turn of phrase has revealed to him a whole new weapon in his arsenal of response. He could let out a shriek of rage OR ... he could simply choose not to mind.

Not minding has its advantages. It promotes serenity. There is a beatific quality to Bub these days, as he explores his newfound Zen. All around him may be chaos but at the centre is Bub, not minding.

"You know what it's called when you don't mind things very much?" I asked him the other day. "It's called being easy-going. And you know who else is easy-going? Your Dad."

"You mean Daddy's going easy-going, just like me?" Bub asked in delight. He seems to sense that in not minding he has found an unexpected form of power, a power that is not about getting but about letting go.

17 comments:

Omaha Mama said...

That is AWESOME. We are not easy-going, not a single one of us in this house. It is a trait that I admire very much. You are one lucky mama. Now you're not alone...that is so great.

Sarah Denley said...

You are back! I had just found your blog when you took your hiatus. I've enjoyed stumbling around through your archives, but now it's really you! I'm so excited!

painted maypole said...

That's a great power!

HarryJack's Mom said...

You do have a way with words. My previously dramatic one is going thru both of those stages now, and I.Love.It! Not so many easy-going models at our house, either, but you're right about them finding the power in it...just hope it lasts ;-) Happy Thanksgiving! My it be easy and not lonely :-)

planetnomad said...

and congrats on getting up all by yourself! :) That's just too cute.

Kyla said...

He's wise to make that discovery at a young age!

Anonymous said...

Love this post.
(your)Anon

MaggieO said...

You're back! Hurrah!

slouchy said...

He's such a sweet kid.

Nicole said...

I like this! More people should be like that - not minding - it's a great trait.

Beck said...

Hey, look at you all writing and stuff!
That is good. That is how I like things to be.
I am reasonably easy-going - actually, I'm very easy-going, but when I get stressed out, I fall completely apart. My husband is on the surface a calm blue ocean, but underneath? Chaos and jellyfish.

julie green said...

i could stand to cultivate a little more not-minding. what a wonderful insight for bub and for you.

alejna said...

That is really a great power. I wonder if my daughter will discover that one.

natalie said...

What a wonderful discovery for Bub.

(Glad you're back. You were missed!)

Mimi said...

I have worked so very hard to attain I don't mind in my own life and failed. Kudos to Bub for discovering and seizing on its power.

Jaelithe said...

I may need to take advice from Bub on not minding things . . .

kittenpie said...

That's a lesson lots of GROWNUPS could do well from... (me included, sometimes, if I'm honest.)